Live to your own expectations

Everyone has people in their life that push them to do their best... and thats good! Until your six years old and your parents are telling you to be a doctor. Then your ten years old and everyone expects you to stick at the instrument you hate or whatever it is.  There is always pressure to do something well or amazingly... but how can you do something amazingly if it's what they want and not what you want?  If you're constantly trying to reach others expectations of you, you'll never make yourself happy. They'll be happy, but you wont.
If you are sitting exams in school or university or whatever and everyone expects you to get an A++ and you think you aren't capable of it, the for crying out loud don't try to get an A++ aim for what you think you can get, and then if you do better then it'll be nice. Whereas if you try to get  the A++ to please whoever and don't get it, you'll be disappointed, you'll think you've let them down when in reality, it isn't there life!
Pheonix Feather.

Don't care what others think of you.

There is a great saying, that those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind... and it's true. If someone loves you, whether as a friend, a family member, or more, then they won't give a flying monkey if you're weird, or gay, or a dragon (you know what I mean). If someone loves you, then they really wont care if you dye your hair crazy colours, or if you love to read, or if you dance in the middle of your school.
Me and my best friend literlly do a little dance in school, and our friends really don't give a tiny rats ass! They just laugh at us or join in, because they matter to us, they don't mind that we are pretty much clinnically insane when we are together, or that I sit and sing Harry Potter to myself and obsess over Sherlock (Suddenly I'm Mr Sex... I blurted that out in maths one day... oops!) and laugh like a pigeon apparently. They know that it's me. If someone loves you for who you are, then they won't care. You could tell them your most deapest, darkest secret, and they wouldn't care... alright they might be a bit shocked, but they'll get over it! And they'll still love you!

This is the dance me and my friends do...

So if someone says you're fugly or geeky or whatever, laugh it off and remember that they DON'T MATTER! There is always going to be people who don't understand you, but in the long run, they don't matter to you!
Pheonix Feather

There is NEVER a need to bitch about people!

Bitching is horrible, but I'm not going to sit here and lie to you all by saying I've never bitched about anybody, I have, but afterwards I have always felt awful. So I'm trying to stop. I've realized that if I feel awful about saying bad things about people, how would they feel if they heard me. 

Even if someone is bitching about you, that doesn't give you an excuse! I hope that you guys all realize this. Bitching makes people seem like nasty little bugs, because you don't realise how horrible it is until you hear people bitching about you or your friends. I only recently figured this out because in the last week of school before the summer holidays, I heard two different groups of people bitch about two of my friends, and it caused me to think about not only how much I loved those guys, but how little it made the people bitching seem. (This isn't very eloquent, I know, but when I'm passionate about something, I can't make my words sound good). 

There is never any need to bitch about someone, and if you think there is, don't tell someone who could then tell the person you're bitching about, tell a teddy, or a pet or something like that. Even a parent is better than someone who, if you then fell out with them, would probably tell other people. I believe that people who bitch are jealous or severely pissed off, or both. But that still doesn't give you a reason to! 

Pheonix Feather.